How to Help Your Baby Learn to Be Put Down

Helping Your Newborn Learn to Be Put Down: A Survival Guide for Parents

Do you have a newborn who just doesn’t want to be put down? They’re fed, they’re dry, and you’ve done everything “right,” yet they need to be held 24/7. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many parents find themselves in this exhausting phase, navigating endless hours of holding, bouncing, and soothing. It’s physically and emotionally draining, and survival mode may feel like the only way to get through the day.

First, let’s acknowledge that this is hard—really hard. As a pediatrician and a parent, I see this struggle often, and I’ve lived it, too. When you’re already sleep-deprived and frazzled, the idea of "teaching" your baby anything might feel overwhelming. But there is hope! Sometimes, making small adjustments to when and how you start putting your baby down can make a big difference.

Here’s a tip: timing is everything. The best time to start teaching your baby to be put down isn’t when they’re about to fall asleep. Babies who are overtired or cranky are not going to be receptive. Instead, try this during their “quiet alert phase”—that magical time right after they wake up, when they’re calm and alert. Gently lower them toward the crib or bassinet, and pay attention to their cues. If they start fussing—scrunching their face, kicking, or whimpering—pick them back up right away. The key is to start small and build gradually. Even if you only manage to set them down for a few seconds, celebrate the win.

Consistency is your friend here. Try this 2-3 times each time your baby wakes up in that calm, alert state, but only when you feel up for it. This process takes patience and practice, and it’s okay if progress feels slow. Even small steps can shave time off your "survival mode." And beyond helping your baby, many parents find that simply trying this approach feels empowering—like they’re taking control instead of just reacting to every cry.

Parenting is a marathon, not a sprint, and your baby’s sleep habits will evolve over time. Sharing tips like these with a friend or loved one who’s expecting can also help others navigate this challenging stage. Every little bit of advice that eases the journey can make a big difference.

At Lighthouse Pediatrics, we know that parenting can be as rewarding as it is challenging. Whether you’re tackling sleep struggles or simply need a listening ear, we’re here to support you. With same-day and next-day appointments, personalized care, and a focus on families in Issaquah and surrounding areas, we’re committed to helping your family thrive—even through the toughest phases. Schedule an appointment today with Dr. Sean Park at Lighthouse Pediatrics in Issaquah and let’s navigate this journey together.

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