Toilet Training: Take It Easy On Yourself

Potty Training: Natural, Simple, and Challenging

Toilet training your toddler is one of the most challenging yet surprisingly simple milestones in parenting. It’s a lot like teaching kids to fall asleep on their own—there’s plenty you feel you need to do, but in the end, much of the process is out of your control.

Successful potty training depends on a number of developmental factors. At a minimum, your child needs to recognize a full bladder, learn to relax and engage muscles they’ve never consciously used before, and feel comfortable in the bathroom—an environment that might seem unfamiliar or even intimidating. Every child progresses at their own pace, and thankfully, medical reasons for delayed toilet training are rare.

When Should You Worry About Potty Training Delays?

For typically developing children, I don’t worry about toilet training delays until around age four. Even then, we assess the same factors—awareness, muscle control, comfort, etc.—and continue monitoring for any underlying medical concerns that could be affecting their progress.

That said, I completely understand why parents want to get their kids out of diapers as soon as possible. However, pushing toilet training before a child is truly ready often backfires. Research suggests that starting too early can lead to anxiety, hesitation, and even constipation, prolonging the process. If your child shows signs of stress or resistance, it’s okay to slow down or take a break.

The Fastest Way to Potty Train

Here’s the good news: When kids are truly ready, potty training happens quickly—often in a single day. That’s why I recommend picking a weekend when you can stay home and focus on it. If, by the end of that weekend, your child has made progress but hasn’t fully mastered it, don’t stress. It’s okay to put them back in diapers and try again in a few weeks.

When to Talk to Your Pediatrician

If you’ve tried multiple times without success, or even earlier if you have concerns, check in with your pediatrician. There may be simple strategies or insights you haven’t considered. We can also assess whether any underlying medical issues could be making the process more difficult.

At Lighthouse Pediatrics, we’re here to support you through every stage of your child’s development, including potty training. If you need guidance or reassurance, don’t hesitate to reach out—we’re happy to help!